I am a 30 year old divorced woman. I am in a commited relationship with a man who belongs to Church of Christ. My boyfriend and I would like to get married. When we discussed our intentions with his mother, she told me that I would have to "repent my sins" before our marriage would be accepted in the eyes of God and the Church. I'm assuming that "repenting my sins" means asking for God's forgiveness because I got divorced. Now, I wont go into great detail, but I feel a need to explain myself a little bit. I was divorced because I was married to a very mean and abusive man. He was abusive both physically and emotionally. I believe in my heart that God will forgive me, if he hasn't already, for not staying in a marriage like I was in. My question is, how does one repent their sins. I've asked my boyfriends mother to help me understand this, so that my boyfriend and I can get married, but she hasnt been able to help me understand what I need to do, so I've taken it upon myself to come right out and prayed for God's forgiveness and I continue to do so on a daily basis. I live my life as a Christian. I dont do or say anything that I feel God would disapprove of. I go to church every week, and I have daily bible studies. What else can I do. How else can I prove to God and my boyfriends Mother that I am truly sorry for my past mistakes?

I'm not sure if anyone is interested or not, since I didn't receive any replies to my post asking for help, but everything is working out fine. I have been praying about everything and things are becoming clearer as to what I need to do in order to make things right in the eyes of God and the church. My boyfriend and I are planning to get married very soon.

hi!! i'm glad that things are going well now, that's wonderfull. I just wanted to tell u, that there is nothing that u can do but confess, there is a verse that goes like this,

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9

This shows that ALL our sins are forgiven for God is just....he has forgiven you for everything that u have done and for everthing that u are going to do, it's already been paid for...and once u brought your sin before God, u don't need to do it again...u just need to forgive yourself, and realise that u are free...

I wish you all happyness and blessings in ur marriage!

Soldiersgrl07 wrote:

I'm not sure if anyone is interested or not, since I didn't receive any replies to my post asking for help, but everything is working out fine. I have been praying about everything and things are becoming clearer as to what I need to do in order to make things right in the eyes of God and the church. My boyfriend and I are planning to get married very soon.

Hello Soldiersgrl

I know this is a Hard thing, And will offend many, I'm going to give the Word of God

According to The Word of God

You are Bound by the Law as Long as your Husband is Alive 1 Corinthians 7:39

For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress:

but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:2-3 (KJV)

Only Death can Break a marriage

whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery
Matt 5:32

If you marry some one that has Been Divorced, You commit Adultery...Matthew 5:32...Mark 10:12


As Jesus said

Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery:

and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.Luke 16:18

Marriage is till Death do you Part, and you cannot Remarry as Long as they are Alive, this is for Both Sides..Matthew 5:32..Matt 19:9..Mark 10:11-12..Luke 16:18..1 Corinthians 7:39..Romans 7:1-3

As it is Written

So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress...Romans 7:3

Good points Elijah but I believe that it depends on where Soldergirl was with the Lord when she did get divorced. If she was saved then yes you are right but if she wasn't then her sin of divorce is washed away by Jesus' blood and she is free to marry this Christian man now in the newness of her life Romans 6:4.

disciple121 wrote:

Good points Elijah but I believe that it depends on where Soldergirl was with the Lord when she did get divorced. If she was saved then yes you are right but if she wasn't then her sin of divorce is washed away by Jesus' blood and she is free to marry this Christian man now in the newness of her life Romans 6:4.

It does not matter if He, or She was a Christian or not

Even If you Come one With a Harlot, God Joins you Togather... we Know a Harlot is no Christian ....It Does not Matter

No Excuse

Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ?

shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.

16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for TWO, saith he, shall be ONE FLESH. 1 Cor 6:15-16

Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Matt 19:4-

Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matt 19:9 (KJV)

If she Leaves her Husband and Marrys another Man, She commits Adultery..And if any WOmen Marrys this Womens Husband He commits Adultery...

This is Why Jesus says (Except) If there is No Fornication...You cannot get a Divorce.

If you put away your wife and Remarry..you commit Adultery against your Wife....Mark 10:12

And you cause her to commit Adultery..Matthew 5:32

NOTE

And if any one marrys That Women thats been Put away Commits adultery Matt 19:9

whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Matt 5:32

Causes Jesus Little ones to Fall....Luke 17:1-2

It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.

Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery:

And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. Mark 10:12

and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.Luke 16:18

Even the one that Did not do any thing cannot Remarry

You cannot Remarry at all as long as they are ALIVE

if you do you commit adultery...

Again

For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man,

((she shall be called an adulteress)):

but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Romans 7:2-

Elijah,
you speak truth that if a woman marries while divorced she commits adultery, but the bible also says that a man should love his wife as he love himself so if her first husband was abusive she did the right thing and left. though she maynever be used of God in his original plans she will still be used of God according to how God sees fit and truth be told God can wash clean the sins of adultery with the blood of Christ for those washed in his blood are no longer under the law of this earth but by the laws of God and so long as she does not remarry to a third man while under God she is no adulteress

Yes agreed he was mentally and physically abusive. What the Holy Scriptures tell us is to seperate. You should have seperated from your husband and get counselling and see if through reconcilliation he would change an realise his errors.

Your husband did not send you away or committed adultery to defile the marriage bed imn which you could have had the option to divorce or forgive (but its better to forgive). In GOD's eyes you have broken the marriage bond by leaving your husband. You made a covenant before GOD Almighty when you both took your vows.


The Holy scriptures say:

1Co 7:10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to leave her husband.
1Co 7:11 But, indeed, in case she does leave, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to send away his wife.

The Holy scriptures also say:


1Co 7:12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord: If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is willing to live with him, let him not send her away.
1Co 7:13 And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, if he is willing to live with her, let her not leave him.

If you were not saved it doesnt matter. The law still applies to unbelievers. E.g if someone commits murder or raped a young child before they were saved and they were never caught. And now 10yrs down the line that same person becomes saved. What will show true repentance

1) pray for forgiveness in private for the murder/rape 10yrs ago and believing GOD has forgiven them
2) Or confess and report their crime they werent caught for 10yrs ago and serve their just punishment in this life but ultimatly gain Eternity with the LORD

If that was your child that was murdered/raped. What would you want that murderer to do? option 1 or 2

Same applies to your situation.


You choose whom you will obey

To please your feelings and your current relationship because it feels right or to please GOD by Obeying His commandments.

Please, Please choose to abey GOD. This life is too short compared to eternity. When you stand before Christ Jesus our Judge your feelings wont be taken into consideration but what will be taken into consideration was did you obey GOD or your feelings (however painful they may be)

Please go to the link below that shows Q/A of people who ask similar questions
www.lavistachurchofchr...tm#Divorce
www.lavistachurchofchr...05-02.html

GOD Bless